Wednesday, April 27, 2011

Reasons for What Happen

“I can be changed by what happens to me, but I refuse to be reduced by it.” –Maya Angeleu

Everyone has heard the saying, “Everything happens for a reason.” I honestly have used it way too often, but for many years it has helped me accept some of my misfortunes. Unfortunately the saying just isn’t cutting it anymore. I have officially become too unmotivated to come up with creative reasons for the calamities that tend to follow me.

Lazy Reasoning:
1. I pissed off Karma.
2. Gaining strength to handle harder situations.
3. Learning a lesson.

Yeah, pretty creative stuff. I used to be so damn good at finding the “reasoning” behind all of the shit that happened. Then again, people who hurt me sure find great “excuses” to throw my way. (By the way, there is a HUGE difference between excuses and reasons. You can ask me about it if you really care to know.)

So now my big thing is the beginning of the serenity prayer. For those who don’t know it, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” I say that minus “God.” (I’m agnostic, so basically undecided on religion. Sorry if eliminating His name offends anyone.)

So now if something rude, awful, painful, sad, and hurtful and all that jazz happen, I just consciously tell myself to let it go. Fuck, how can continually thinking about the REASON it happened going to help me move on faster? It won’t. I will learn lessons from my mistakes, as well as others mistakes, collect good Karma, and gain wisdom or strenth no matter what goes down.

Life is a bitch, but I can be too, so better to just get over the past and try to rock my future!

1 comment:

Mali, not Maui, not Bali, Mali said...

listing opportunities to find happiness, to wallow in saddness, to move beyond it, to follow a path unto it; listing recipies of trials, errors, situational statics and rapid reasonings; lists lists lists - always make lists. because, lists allow you to mark off things you may do on a daily basis anyways, things you wouldn't leave your house without doing, but the act of pushing a pencil across words of a noun, a verb, a phrase, a reminder to breathe deep before sitting up in bed, can make an accomplishment out of a habit, making the habit important, which it always was, but now feels new. clean. correct.